Personal Emotional Health

Often we see the another person’s behavior as wrong and our behavior as right. Have you ever thought to yourself, “How could he do this to me?”. In this way we can blame others when things go wrong and do not take responsibility for our responses. To elevate emotional well-being each of us needs to be aware of who we are to raise our emotional awareness. Evaluating your emotional landscape and affirming who you are – what your memories, beliefs, values, thoughts, and expectations (events) are – and taking ownership of your resulting emotions or behaviors (responses), is empowering.

We call this your EAR-Identity. EAR-Identity is who you are. Events occurring in your life are appraised by you, which generate a response. Often the impact of your response can be overwhelming, both to yourself and to others, causing severe physiological distress felt in your body.

If you have an avoidant emotional style you will feel predominantly anxious, bewildered, and personally attacked. You will run for your burrow to ‘avoid’ perceived threats to you and your environment.

If you have a reactive emotional style you will feel predominantly frustration, irritation, and anger from perceived threats to who you are.

If you can identify and affirm your EAR-Identity, and begin to change it cognitively, you will soon be on the road to reaching a new level of self-understanding and greater effectiveness in your personal and professional life.

Read on >> Accept The Emotional Challenge

“Life is a series of events. Every event is an opportunity for change.
It is from the most painful events that you change the most.”
– Dr. Mike Gosling.

Have you ever heard someone say:

• “Oh, she is so sensitive, she always bursts into tears at the drop of a hat.”
• “Now come on son, real men don’t cry.”
• “Reason is superior to emotion. Emotions are chaotic and immature.”
• “Emotions ‘get in the way’ of rational decision-making.”

Know that Emotion is the FORCE of Life.

The contemporary view is that emotions convey information about relationships. Each emotion signals a different relation. And each of us experiences our emotion differently. Thoroughly thinking through and understanding our emotions and the emotions of others is an important source of coping – with ourselves, our workmates, friends, family, and community – and solving behavioral problems.

Dr. Mike and Karen Gosling are emotional growth experts who help you enrich your own lives. In using these talents and abilities, they have invested in, created, and now enjoy the wonderful pleasure and privilege of helping so many people around the world. Their influence has enabled people to solve their most significant, most consistent behavioral problems. Solving these painful events and problems – these emotional health challenges – is the key to a more meaningful life.

In the pages of this blog, and our EmotionMatters Community site, we have dedicated ourselves to helping you think through your emotions and use your emotions to help your thinking. For those committed to embarking on this journey with us, you will find an emotional richness that will come only from applying yourself to some hard work.

Paradoxically, enjoying emotional health … a life of EASE … involves choosing to work the hardest you have ever done:

• learning new emotional knowledge
• understanding your emotional style, and
• developing your emotional intelligence.

The rewards are measured in emotional wisdom and the richness of fulfilling relationships to enjoy unlimited wealth and abundance.

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I am intrigued with all things coaching. I have a strong background in training and teaching and yet my days in the classroom left me hungry for more. I am a life-long learner in the field of human performance and coaching. I help people grow. Behavioral coaching provides me an opportunity to share my knowledge and supports my natural desire to learn and grow within this exciting field of study while I support you. I empower you to let go of negativity, reduce your stress, and achieve personal and professional success through effective emotional leadership.

I was born and raised in the beautiful multicultural Fiji Islands, emigrating to Australia at age 23. I am a Fijian, Australian and British citizen. In Australia I have worked as a professional accountant, corporate executive, university academic, and small business proprietor. I hold a BA (Acc), BTh, Grad. Cert. in Management, MBA, and Ph.D. in emotional intelligence. I am a successful author and the founder of the popular online emotional development community site EmotionMatters.com.

For 12 years until February 2009, my wife, Karen Gosling, and I conducted a privately owned successful coaching and counselling clinic in Singapore, South East Asia. We are now based on the Gold Coast, Queensland, Australia, from where I teach people to develop sound emotional leadership habits for ongoing success and influence in their family and work relationships. Through these life experiences I have a sound understanding of needs of people from different nationalities, cultures and religions.

In my work as an Executive Coach to personal leaders, top CEOs and senior level executive in corporations worldwide, I feel privileged and honoured to work with committed people to help them succeed in positive, measurable, long-term behavioral change and the progressive realization of their goals. I feel fulfilled in this role as it allows me to utilise all my teaching, business, counselling, coaching and emotional skills as I witness them achieve their desired level of success.

I have spent a lifetime searching for the keys to being emotionally happy and a successful entrepreneur and businessman. Today, after more than 25 years living in Australia, I’m happy to say that I get to live a truly contented life on the Gold Coast, Queensland, Australia with fabulous relationships, work I am passionate about, and the confidence that I can achieve anything.

I love living on the Gold Coast and the proximity to my extended family and friends. I love being near the ocean and endless sandy beaches to walk along, the forested hinterland tracks, the vibrant people, the abundant shopping and recreational facilities, and the weather – beautiful one day, exceptional the next!

I have written The Emotional Leader Program manual and workbook, and co-authored three books with Karen, my business partner, professional counselor, and mental health social worker.

As authors, international speakers, trainers, and consultants, Karen and I have helped change the minds, change the lives of thousands of people from 83 nationalities globally over more than 35 years. We know the keys to help you reach a new level of self-understanding and greater effectiveness in your personal and professional life.

I look forward to meeting you and serving you as your Emotional Leader Coach.

“Life is Good!” is Marshall Goldsmith’s favourite tagline. And what a powerful statement it is. Life is good and I want to thank you for visiting my website. I feel privileged to have you visit and become better informed about my passion—stakeholder centered coaching for applying your emotional intelligence.

Now get ready to transform your thinking and your behavior so that you move from where you are in life to where you want to be, because that’s what I’m all about.

For more than 40 years, I’ve been living in and studying the ’school of hard knocks’, and more recently, evidenced-based emotional intelligence constructs and cognitive-behavioral science. I am now a successful entrepreneur and businessman, teacher, educator, internet marketer and executive coach.

In my former life I have been a wharfie, shipping clerk, barman, truck driver, fisherman, factory hand, bank clerk, accountant, company secretary, senior manager, weekend sheep farmer, and university academic. I have been divorced once, married twice, and have been a husband and father of five children for more than 40 years. All of which underpin my passion for helping human beings become extraordinary – guiding people to achieve their dreams through emotional self-improvement. This, I believe, is what I was born to do.

There’s a lot of information out there on how to get what you want in life, personally and professionally. And like you, I’ve read many motivational books, listened to self development CDs, watched DVDs, gone to success seminars and sat at the feet of coaches and mentors to learn, and learn again.

I’ve also been studying the natural laws of the universe and paying close attention to advances in brain research as it applies to our emotional brain; how our thinking impacts our emotions and behavior. Much of what I teach others is what I have applied from all of this information in my own life with amazing results. I give myself permission to be powerful, ready to guide you on a truly incredible journey of self discovery and emotional mastery to know your true self and how you can manifest all your deepest most cherished intentions, goals and desires in all walks of life.

In my Emotional Leader Program (ELPro) I guide you in developing your emotional intelligence and stopping behaviors that may be preventing you from being more successful than you already are. Together, with your peer coaches and mentors, you will move through actionable steps to fulfill your purpose in life, one step at a time.

My focus as your personal coach will be to help you choose one or two behaviors that you can make right. The rest will follow. You will work to find your true identity and reframe your cognitions in your brain for doing what you were born to do, tapping into nature’s intelligence and bringing out the genius within you. It is absolutely possible for you tune in to your reality and let go of appearances, but you must take action.

I have enjoyed the privilege of working with a number of wonderful people worldwide as they have discovered a more meaningful life and I look forward to welcoming you to my programs. For a wider sense of what I do, join my global community at the EmotionMatters.com and discover my emotional wealth programs.

In my Emotional Leader programs, my wife and business partner, Karen Gosling, take you on an emotional challenge of discovery to teach you emotional wealth secrets that are guaranteed to stop stress and help your body heal!

“Life is a series of events. Every event is an opportunity for change. It is from the most painful events that we change the most.”

Emotional Leader Coaching is an opportunity for change… but you must choose to take it.

I wish you great success,

Dr. Mike Gosling
Emotional Leader Coach