Personal Emotions
Emotions represent bodily feelings experienced as arousal of the nervous system. Stress involves an emotional reaction, especially a reaction involving negative emotions. No one else can experience your feelings in the same way that you do. An implication of this fact is you have to be responsible for your feelings. They are not happening to […]
Your Emotional Style
There are only two emotional styles … Which one are you? Aristotle (384-322 BCE) said… “The ultimate value of life depends upon awareness, and the power of contemplation rather than upon mere survival”. Mike said… “I learned at great cost to manage my reactive emotional style.” Karen said… “I was astonished to discover my avoidant […]
Avoidant Emotional Style
My wife, Karen, said, “Once I learned how my adrenalin floods affected everything I did life became much more enjoyable and easier”. She has always gone along with what other people wanted, deferred to their wishes and opinions, in order to manage her adrenalin levels. Her happiness came from harmony in her environment, as conflict […]
Reactive Emotional Style
I learned at great personal cost, with the loss of my former wife and twin daughters over 30 years ago, that loud tones, aggression, irritation, and anger had to go. I have always been a leader, full of ideas and the energy, persistence, and dedication to carry them out. I used to not take fools […]
Affirm Your Identity
Often we see the another person’s behavior as wrong and our behavior as right. Have you ever thought to yourself, “How could he do this to me?”. In this way we can blame others when things go wrong and do not take responsibility for our responses. To elevate emotional well-being each of us needs to […]