People high in this skill of emotional leadership typically …
- Observe events that are likely to trigger emotional responses.
- Are able to predict what emotions are likely to arise from such events and how they will progress and change over time.
- Understand what drives people, what pushes their buttons, and what makes them feel better or worse, that is, what leads to change.
- Are able to understand the changes in others’ emotions for a broad range of situations and contexts
- Can foresee and evaluate implications of alternative courses of action.
The ability to predict emotion will help you to…
UNDERSTAND: What events give rise to which emotions and how they change over time.
DO:
- Predict the emotional change process – Helps to plan outcomes more skillfully
- Distinguish emotional arousal – More intense forms of emotion states are distinctive
- Understand defence mechanisms – What the ego uses to cope with the drama of life
DO NOT:
- Fall for Othello’s error – You see in others what you fail to see in yourself
- Wait on a crisis for change – Embrace change before emotional arousal
- Remain entrapped by conditioning – Move from anger to assertion, anxiety to appreciation
MEASURE SUCCESS:
You have been successful predicting emotion when others see you:
- Accurately predict the change process and how emotions progress over time
- Describing the preceding event and consequences of distinctive intense emotions
- Understanding attachment to defence mechanisms your personality uses to cope
UNDERSTAND:
Knowing emotion – what you and others are feeling – also involves knowing how these emotions came to be, what the triggers were, and what will happen next? You need to grasp how emotions progress and change over time in order to predict accurately your own and others’ emotions.
THE BOTTOM LINE IS:
YOU MAKE THE CHANGE YOU EXPERIENCE EXTRAORDINARY
