People high in this emotional wealth habit typically …
- Understand and effectively express how they feel about various issues; that is, in the right way, to the right degree and at the right time.
- Effectively utilise and are confident in using non-verbal emotional cues, for example, body language and tone of voice, to communicate how they feel.
- Create greater understanding about themselves amongst their colleagues.
- Are described by colleagues as “genuine and trustworthy”.
The ability to express emotion will help you to…
UNDERSTAND: How difficult it can be to give up old habits.
- Know my emotional style – Express effectively how you feel
- Work on my EAR-Identity – Be aware of your emotional “triggers”
- Use the GAP – Get accurate perceptions and end emotional constipation
- Be ignorant of my emotional style – We each experience our emotion differently
- Become emotionally constipated – Listen to your body, it is telling you something
- Express my emotions inappropriately – Express how you feel at the appropriate time
You have been successful expressing emotion when you see yourself
- Expressing how you feel to others to build greater trust with colleagues
- Adjusting your beliefs, values, and expectations that cause you pain
- Putting a “GAP” between events and your responses
Human beings have an enormous capacity for self-judgement. Mackay & Fanning (2000) wrote: “One of the main factors differentiating humans from other animals is the awareness of self: the ability to form an identity and then attach a value to it.” When your inner voice judges and rejects you, you damage the psychological structures that literally keep you alive. Prolonged self-judgement can result in lowered self-esteem. As stress rises, self-esteem decreases, and vice versa.
Get to know your own brain; how you process emotion. Be aware of the cause of your emotions and use the GAP – Get Accurate Perceptions of events!
THE BOTTOM LINE IS:
GET TO KNOW AND USE YOUR EMOTIONAL STYLE
 McKay, M & Fanning, P 2000, Self-Esteem, 3rd ed, New Harbinger Publications, USA