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Thought For The Day

February 12, 2013 By Dr. Mike Gosling

“We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make the world.”

– Buddha Dhammapada Sutra (Hindu Prince Gautama Siddharta was the founder of Buddhism, 563-483 B.C.)

“Life is a series of events. Every event is an opportunity for change. And it is from the most painful events that you change the most.”

– Mike Gosling

“Always keep a dream in your pocket. Dream deep dreams and reach for the highest dreams.”

“A man’s reach should ere exceed his grasp, else what’s a heaven for?”

– Robert Browning

“An argument seldom proves anything, except that two people differ.”

“Unresolved anger is often the hidden source of low self-esteem.”

“Resentments don’t punish the other person; they punish us.”

“There is a gap between stimulus and response. The key to both our growth and happiness is how we use that gap.”

– Mike Gosling

“The fruit of love is service, which is compassion in action. Religion has nothing to do with compassion, it is love for God that is the main thing because we have all been created for the sole purpose to love and be loved.”

– Mother Teresa.

“Directly acknowledging feelings such as disappointment or anger, instead of making others guess at our feelings or having our feelings come out in other ways, is part of responsible communication.”

“The secret of a long life is to eat right and love what you do.”

– Dr. Leila Denmark <http://drleiladenmark.com/quotes/>

“Remember, anger is caused by your thoughts, not the actions of others.”

– Karen Gosling

“Like a river, my body changes as the moment changes, and if I could do the same, there would be no gaps in my life, no memory of past trauma to trigger new pain, no anticipation of future hurt to make me contract in fear.”

– Deepak Chopra

“Conquering others requires force. Conquering oneself requires strength.”

– Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching

“Only the present moment exists; past and future are mental projections. If you can free yourself of these projections, trying neither to relive the past nor to control the future, a space is opened for a completely new experience – the experience of ageless body and timeless mind.”

– Deepak Chopra

“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

– Reinhold Niebuhr

“Whatever is flexible and flowing will tend to grow, whatever is rigid and blocked will wither and die.”

– Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching

“Emotional distress is an illness of how you think; how you feel depends on how you think.”

– Mike Gosling

“The true test of intelligence is not how much we know how to do, but how we behave when we don’t know what to do.”

– John Holt

“I wanted to change the world. But I have found that the only thing one can be sure of changing is oneself.”

– Aldous Huxley

“Today, I will not strike out at those who cause me pain. I will feel my emotions and take responsibility for them.”

“Adventure is not outside a man, it is within.”

– David Grayson

“Doing what you don’t like is work.   Doing what you like is play.   I have never worked a day in my life.”

– Dr. Leila Denmark

“Part of self-acceptance is releasing other people’s opinions about you. Never let someone else’s opinion about you affect your own view of yourself. Be with people who make you feel good and leave the rest in the dust of your victories! ”

– Mike Gosling

“People are more amenable to change at a time of crisis. Watch out for the precipitating event; the “Oh Shit! experience.”

– Mike Gosling

Experience is not what happens to you; it is what you do with what happens to you.

– Aldous Huxley

“Acting “as if” can be helpful when a negative feeling begins to controls us. We make a conscious decision to act as if we are going to be fine.”

“Everybody needs someone to love, something to do, and something to look forward to.”

– Karen Gosling

“Listen with regard when others talk. Give your time and energy to others; let others have their way; do things for reasons other than furthering your own needs.”

– Larry Scherwitz

“Use positive assertion. Ask open questions. NEVER make statements: I think…, I believe….”

– Mike Gosling

“Our potential for helping others is far greater when we detach, work on ourselves, and stop trying to force others to change with us.”

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”

“People are unrealistic, illogical, and self-centered. Love them anyway.”

– Mother Teresa

“If we don’t change our direction we will always end up where we are headed.”

– Old Chinese Proverb

“Anyone can give up, it’s the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that’s true strength.”

– Author Unknown

“Life is not the way it’s supposed to be. It’s the way it is. The way you cope with it is what makes the difference.”

– Virginia Satir

“To laugh often and much,
to win the respect of intelligent people
and the affection of children,
to earn the appreciation of honest critics
and endure the betrayal of false friends;
to appreciate beauty,
to find the best in others,
to leave the world a bit better,
whether by a healthy child,
a garden patch,
or a redeemed social condition;
to know even one life has breathed easier
because you have lived,
this is to have succeeded.”

– Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Don’t wish for the wind to change, wish for the wisdom to set a better sail.”

– Jim Rohn

“Happiness is when one’s spiritual needs are met by an untroubled inner life. Happiness comes when your work and words are of benefit to yourself and others.”

– Author Unknown

“Mistakes are the portal of discovery.”

– James Joyce

“No milk after the baby is weaned!   No juice, no tea or Cokes.   Only water.   That cow out in the pasture never had a drop of milk after she was weaned, and look how strong and healthy she is.”

– Dr. Leila Denmark

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”

– Mark Twain

“It’s better to be over the hill than under the hill.”

– Dr. Leila Denmark

“Dreams are whispers from your soul.”

– Marcia Wieder


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Virgin Coconut Oil

February 11, 2013 By Dr. Mike Gosling

coconut-oilEssential to emotional health is exercise and good nutrition. Since being diagnosed as a Type II Diabetic 0n May 29, 2011 at age 62, I have researched and taken lots of advice on how to reduce my blood sugar levels and improve my physical health. I now add a tablespoon of Banaban virgin coconut oil to my breakfast cereal.

It has become apparent that the growth of Virgin Coconut Oil and other Nature Pacific coconut food products has more than doubled in demand and popularity. It’s so good to see that here in western society we are finally starting to experience the benefits of coconut in our daily diets.

We are often asked, ” Is the popularity of Coconut Oil a fad?” Well the definition of ‘fad’ is something that becomes popular for just a short time. I think what has become apparent to all our customers (and is what our people back in the Islands have known for centuries) is that coconut definitely becomes a part if not a necessity in everyday life. Some of our customers that have had to go overseas to work are even getting us to ship their Virgin Coconut Oil to the far ends of the earth so they do not have to go without.

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Mike’s Asia Pacific Kitchen – Lamb Vindaloo

February 11, 2013 By Dr. Mike Gosling

Country: Sri Lanka

I believe that eating and sharing food with friends is a very emotional experience. In 1988 Karen was Senior Medical Social Worker, Gold Coast Hospital, Gold Coast, Queensland, Australia. At the time we owned and operated the “Pineridge Hot-Food Takeaways” shop at Coombabah on the Gold Coast, Queensland. We served fish & chips, BBQ chickens, hamburgers, steak sandwiches, and Mike’s famous home-made pies, with recipes learned from James Elliott. Over the three years that we had the shop, I must have cooked over 15,000 pies of six varieties.

Maria had been visiting the Gold Coast from Melbourne looking for property. She had been involved in a car accident and became hospitalized with a badly broken leg that was strung-up in her hospital bed in the orthopedic ward. She was unable to be transferred. Monty to the rescue — with delicacies to keep Maria’s spirits high.

Monty and their 3 children arrived in Southport to support Maria. He and the children stayed at the Red Cross visitors’ quarters at the Gold Coast Hospital.

Maria was from Italy and Monty from Sri Lanka. Imagine the wide food choices in their household. Monty cooked for the family. Towards the end of their long stay on the Gold Coast, and with Maria recovered, Monty presented Karen with this wonderful dish of Sri Lankan Lamb Vindaloo as a thank you for the social work care Karen had given to Maria. It is a very special and delicate dish for me, with lots of emotion attached to it, given the new friendships we made. It’s sure to get the cook many compliments. Thank you Monty!

Ingredients

500 gms tender lean chopped lamb (or beef)

4 teaspoons curry powder

1 teaspoon chilli powder (or to taste)

chilli pieces (if desired)

curry leaves (if available)

2 cinnamon sticks

1/2 cup white vinegar

1/2 – 1 tablespoon tomato paste (to taste)

1 lge brown onion

5 pieces of garlic

2.5 cm piece of fresh ginger<

1 teaspoon salt

1 tablespoon vegetable oil (or ghee)

2 cups water

Curry Powder

This dish is best cooked with Ceylon Marketing Department curry powder. This is a dark, almost black, curry powder and is difficult to find in most places. Other meat curry powders can be used.

Method

Cut the lamb into chunky pieces. Place in a bowl with 1/2 cup vinegar. Put aside to soak for up to an hour (I like to leave my lamb soak overnight).

Chop together the fresh garlic and ginger. Peel and slice the onion. Fry the garlic and ginger in 1 tablespoon of vegetable oil (I use ghee for the added flavour) until the garlic starts to turn brown. Add the chopped onion and fry until golden brown.

Next add your meat with vinegar and fry at moderate heat until the vinegar is virtually gone (about 20-30 minutes).

Add the tomato paste and stir. Add the chilli powder, chilli pieces, curry leaves, cinnamon sticks, and 1 cup of water. Let the meat and ingredients cook for 15 minutes. Add the salt and curry powder. Stir and add up to 1 cup of additional water. Turn the cooker to low heat and cook until ready (about an additional 15 minutes).

Serve with rice, pappadums, and shredded cucumber and yoghurt salad.

Mike’s Tip

Vindaloo is a sour Indian dish flavored with vinegar and hot indigenous spices. Lamb is a tender meat and needs to be cooked slowly. I like to add fresh mint leaves to Monty’s Sri Lankan Lamb Vindaloo straight after cooking.

As always, you are welcome to leave your comments below.

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Daniel Goleman on Emotional Intelligence

February 11, 2013 By Dr. Mike Gosling

Daniel Goleman talks about how in order to be in a top profession a person needs, aside from a high IQ, the ability to be self-motivated and emotionally intelligent.

Filed Under: Blog Tagged With: Daniel Goleman, emotional intelligence

5 Keys to Regroup in the Face of Failure

February 11, 2013 By Guest Blogger

This guest post is by Carolyn B. Ellis of Brilliance Mastery.

Failure and rejection are tough pills to swallow. But sometimes they prove to be the best medicine in the long term.

Let me explain.

We live in a fast-moving, success-driven, “quick fix” oriented society. Encountering disappointment, under performance or outright failure it is something that can feel like a punch to the gut.

Perhaps you launched what you thought was an awesome program, but didn’t get the sign-ups you wanted. You booked the room for your workshop and only 2 people besides your mom showed up.

Maybe you did “all the right things” by your children, but one of them ends up hanging out with the wrong crowd and getting into trouble anyway.

Or you’ve just found yourself in the most amazing relationship, only to discover your partner has cold feet about taking things to the next level of connection.

In every sphere of life there will be moments where our conviction to stand confidently in our brilliance and stay true to our heart will be tested. If we’re not careful, the Gremlin I call “The Pushover” can show up to derail you.

The Pushover wants you to run for the hills and take cover in the safety of your normal routines. The Pushover takes the wind out of your sails to deter you from stepping boldly into a new ventures, relationships or experiences.

But having a strong Brilliance Backbone ™ means your Conviction vertebra is healthy and flexible so you can regroup after a setback. You are willing to stand your ground. It’s what helps you bring life to ideas or plans that fly in the face of conventional wisdom or criticism from naysayers.

To keep that Conviction part of your Brilliance Backbone ™ in strong working order, you need to regroup and do it quickly. Here are 5 keys to help you regroup from failure and turn setbacks into solid success.

Key #1 – Breathe
Dealing with failure or rejection feels like a threat to our safety at some level. So our good old “flight or fight” response gets triggered. With all that adrenalin rushing through our body it’s hard to think clearly about anything!

Taking some deep belly breaths for even just a minute will help short-circuit your reactivity that comes when our reptilian brain gets triggered. Deep breathing allows you to access your prefrontal cortex that governs your decision-making capabilities.

Key #2 – Regroup
The Chinese have a proverb – “Fall down seven times, get up eight.” When things don’t go as you’d planned, the ability to pick yourself up and keep on going is key.

Rather than see failure or disappointment as a sign from the Universe to stop altogether, view it as an opportunity to gather the additional wisdom and resilience you need to move more powerfully into lasting success. Choose to regroup, rather than stay stuck and gripe.

Key #3 – Pan Back and Get the Big Picture
You worked so hard, had such great intentions and yet you still got rejected. Sometimes the sting of failure feels so personal because the Pushover tends to lose sight of the big picture.

Imagine you’re the director of this movie called “Your Life” and it’s time to “Pan back” the cameras to get the wide-angle shot. Choosing to see the bigger picture helps you remember your vision, your Brilliant WHY. Connecting to who you’re meant to serve, or the love and truth you want to have in your life, can help get you ready and motivated to get back in the game.

Key #4 – The W-W-W Formula
Now that you’ve got the bigger perspective, it’s time to use the W-W-W Formula.

Objectively assess the following questions:
W – What worked?
W – What didn’t work?
W – What would you do differently the next time?

Engage your brilliant brain into answering these questions and just watch how quickly your Pushover gets crowded out of your awareness. These answers invoke rich, straight-forward insights and data points that will help you make needed course corrections.

Key #5 – Give Yourself Permission to Fail
Failure is a necessary ingredient of our brilliance and success. Let’s give up the need for perfectionism and the myth of instant success. What if Mother Nature had decided that evolution and natural selection weren’t such good ideas? Our world would be robbed of so much beauty and diversity if Mother Nature was a perfectionist, unwilling to experiment and evolve along the way.

Give yourself permission to fail. Make it your intention to fail quickly and often. That way you can gather up so much wisdom and polishing to take with you so you can step forward in greater strength and brilliance the next time.

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

As an internationally acclaimed business coach, author and media personality, Carolyn Ellis, the SelfGrowth.com Official Guide to Entrepreneurs, has helped thousands of women reclaim their financial future and radically transform their lives.

Through her company, Brilliance Mastery, Carolyn has the privilege of helping brilliant women and conscious entrepreneurs reconstruct and realign their businesses in order to present their great work more clearly, powerfully and profitably to the world.


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