EXECUTIVE LEADERSHIP COACHING
Are you at your most emotional for a solution?
This is key. It's really important.I don't offer a program; I offer a solution to your problem.
Once you realise that it’s not about my program – it’s about your emotion for a solution, everything changes.
So, what I want to do for you is make clear that I cannot help you if you are not ready for change – what I call “transformational change.”
Now, here’s what I mean by “transformational change.” I’m going to use a diagram here, so you’ll remember it.
There are three parts to a transformational change:
The 1st part is that a leader needs to get to the stage where they say, “I need to change.”
This is what I find when I am coaching leaders around the world. I’ve been doing executive coaching since 1999, spoken in several countries to hundreds of people, and I’ve been talking to all the people who wanted to become my clients.
I soon realised that I needed to help them decide they needed to change first before we can begin our work together.
If they hadn’t decided they needed to change, they were never going to invest in my coaching.
But you can’t “tell” people that they need to change.
They need to work out that for themselves. There’s a correct framework for helping them to get to this conclusion (Awareness, Desire, Knowledge, Ability, and Reinforcement). But it HAS to be THEIR discovery.
That’s the Number 1 key, but that’s not enough.
Because, secondly, leaders must realise that “now” is the time for the change. They need to say, “I need to change NOW.”
Now, some people might say, “Yes. I know I need to change,” but they haven’t decided inside that it’s now.
It’s like three months away, or a year from now. So, they will not become clients of my program. If they do happen to become clients, then they won’t be good clients because they’re not ready.
Thirdly, a leader needs to ask me how I can you help them change.
Notice that The Leader needs to ask me “how I can help them”. Not the other way around. If I tell them that they need my help, it’s a completely different conversation.
And it puts my prospective leader client on the back foot.
My goal is to show leaders how my coaching service will get them to the change they want.
These are the three steps:
- Deciding to change,
- Deciding to change now, and
- Asking me how I can help them change.
THE TAKE-AWAY FOR YOU THE LEADER RIGHT NOW IS:
Stop talking about all the features and benefits I provide for you as a Leader or the consultation hours I spend with you.
Stop talking about the emotional intelligence assessments and stakeholder feedforward you’ll receive.
Stop talking about the investment required for transformational change.
Stop talking about those things even though it sounds like you should (logical brain).
Stop talking about all the online videos I have for you to watch and PDFs to review and instead simply agree to change.
That’s it. Decide to change, decide to change now, and ask me, “How can I help you change.”
If you miss this step, your life will continue to be hard.
Get that step right and the rest is easy.
"But Mike, how do I do that?"
All right. Let me show you this. Something I’ve been teaching since 1999 through my executive leadership coaching program. It’s called “Hell to Paradise.”
My prospective leader coaching client is living over there on the left. That’s the “hell” section.
If I truly solve a problem for a living, then what it means is that the leader is in some level of hell. If they weren’t in that hell, then there would no need for me. I wouldn’t have a business. No void = no business.
So, they’re in hell in some way. When instead, where they’d rather be is over there on the right in “paradise.” But what does that mean?
Here’s what it means: They have a problem – they’re in hell. And they want to get into paradise.
But they are not seeing my solution right now, as the way forward.
They’re still searching for someone else to help them. So that’s a big problem.
And when they change that, all the problems go away. If you change how you leverage your knowledge, skills and experience, all the problems go away. No more feeling frustrated, angry, or anxious.
Remember, in paradise, it’s sunny all the time. There are beautiful beaches. Lovely green grass. Fresh breezes. And cocktails… lots of cocktails. It’s fun and happy.
My goal is to help Leaders realise that they’re actually in hell, how bad their hell is, and if they don’t get out of hell, life’s going to continue being hell.
That’s the leader’s psychological goal. Not enough leaders spend enough time on their “hell.” Most leaders want to talk about “paradise.” “Oh, you’ve got to go to paradise. It’s going to be so great.” But the leader doesn’t even know if they want to go there or how to go there. Why?
Because they haven’t realised how bad hell is.
They put “hell” in the back of their mind. They’ll say “It’s okay, I can handle it,” “I’ve been told I need to fix my behaviour in order to be considered for promotion… I’ll get it done next year.” And so, they stay there where they are.
And they buy band-aid solutions – a short course on the internet or a one-day seminar somewhere with some “guru” and no follow-up – that just make them feel a bit better about their hell. But which does not get them out of there!
Now, what’s this in the middle?
It’s a “mountain.” This is the challenge leaders face in getting between where they are now to where they need to be.
If there wasn’t a mountain to climb, they could go where they need to be right now. But the mountain is there for sure. That’s what is keeping them in hell.
They don’t know how to get over the mountain – that is, they don’t know how to manage those annoying behaviours and being unapproachable and inconsistent that are holding them back.
The leaders I’m looking for don’t know how to get to where they want to be. If they did, they’d be there right now. But they can’t get there.
And so, I am the guide. I am the guide that takes them over the mountain; grabs them by the hand; shows them what to do and how to do it.
I educate them, increase their emotional intelligence, communication skills and self-awareness, correct their mistakes, and get them to walk themselves to paradise.
Leaders receive FeedForward from their stakeholders and me and make positive, lasting, behavioural change; for themselves, their people and their teams.
I give them knowledge, emotional skills, and experience practising new habits that they don’t have.
That’s the concept to keep in mind.
I’m the only coach in the world to teach you how to measurably improve your Emotional Intelligence and Leader Behaviour … In Just 3-hours per Week within 90-days … or I’ll work with you until you do.
It’s the promise of leaders getting out of hell that makes the change transformational. They don’t only invest in my program, and my consultations, but they are invested in and transformed by the change they achieve.
Their responses are like, “Yes. We now have changed the way we see things. We’ve changed where we’re going. And now we’re going in this new direction.”
A transformation, right? All because of The Emotional Leader System. And this works for ANY leader – those already successful and those just starting out. Okay?
Even you.
Super powerful. And it will change your behaviour and life forever.
So, if you are a successful leader who can say,
- “I need to change”,
- “I need to change now,”
- And can ask me, “Mike, how can you help me?”
I want you on my 6-month coaching assignment improving as much emotional intelligence and leader behaviour as you want?