EXECUTIVE LEADERSHIP COACHING
Are you at your most emotional for a solution?
This is key. It's really important.
I don't offer a program; I help you manage emotional cues.
Once you realise that it’s not about my program – it’s about your emotion mastery for a solution (identifying and managing your emotional triggers and patterns), everything changes.
So, what I want to do for you is make clear that I cannot help you if you are not ready for change – what I call “transformational change.”
Now, here’s what I mean by “transformational change.” I’m going to use a diagram here, so you’ll remember it.
There are three parts to a transformational change:
FIRSTLY…
A leader needs to get to the stage where they say, “I need to change.”
This is what I find when I am coaching leaders around the world. I’ve been doing executive coaching since 1999, spoken in several countries to hundreds of people, and I’ve been talking to all the people who wanted to become my clients.
I soon realised that I needed to help them decide they needed to change first before we can begin our work together.
If they hadn’t decided they needed to change, they were never going to invest in my coaching.
But you can’t “tell” people that they need to change.
They need to work out that for themselves. There’s a correct framework for helping them to get to this conclusion (Awareness, Desire, Knowledge, Ability, and Reinforcement). But it HAS to be THEIR discovery.
That’s the Number 1 key, but that’s not enough.
SECONDLY…
A leader must realise that “now” is the time for the change. They need to say, “I need to change NOW.”
Now, some people might say, “Yes. I know I need to change,” but they haven’t decided inside that it’s now.
They haven’t decided yet to be an inside out leader!
It’s like three months away, or a year from now. So, they will not become clients of my program. If they do happen to become clients, then they won’t be good clients because they’re not ready.
THIRDLY…
A leader needs to ask, “How can you help me?”
Notice that The Leader needs to ask me “How can you help me?” Not the other way around. If I tell them that they need my help, it’s a completely different conversation.
And it puts my prospective leader client on the back foot.
My goal is to show leaders how my coaching service will get them to the change they want.
These are the three steps:
- Decide to change,
- Decide to change now, and
- Ask me “How can you help me?”
THE TAKE-AWAY FOR YOU THE LEADER RIGHT NOW IS:
Stop talking about all the features and benefits I provide for you as a Leader or the consultation hours I spend with you.
Stop talking about the emotional intelligence assessments and stakeholder feedforward you’ll receive.
Stop talking about the investment required for your transformational change.
Stop talking about those things even though it sounds like you should (logical brain).
Stop talking about all the online videos I have for you to watch and PDFs to review and instead simply agree to change.
That’s it. Decide to change, decide to change now, and ask me, “How can you help me change?”
If you miss this step, your life will continue to be hard.
Get that step right and the rest is easy.
"But Mike, how do I do that?"
All right. Let me show you this. Something I’ve been teaching since 1999 through my executive leadership coaching program. It’s called “Hell to Paradise.”
My prospective coaching client is a leader living over there on the left. That’s the “hell” section.
If I truly solve a problem for a living, then what it means is that the leader is in some level of hell. If they weren’t in that hell, then there would no need for me. I wouldn’t have a business. No void = no business.
So, they’re in hell in some way. When instead, where they’d rather be is over there on the right in “paradise.” But what does that mean?
Here’s what it means:
They have an emotional cues problem – they’re in hell. And they want to get into paradise.
But they are not seeing my solution right now, as their way forward.
They’re still searching for someone else to help them. So that’s a big problem.
And when they change that, all the problems go away. If you change how you leverage your knowledge, skills and experience, all the problems go away. No more feeling frustrated, angry, or anxious.
Remember, in paradise, it’s sunny all the time. There are beautiful beaches. Lovely green grass. Fresh breezes. And cocktails… lots of cocktails. It’s fun and happy.
My goal is to help Leaders realise that they’re actually in hell, how bad their hell is, and if they don’t get out of hell, life’s going to continue being hell.
That’s the leader’s psychological goal. Not enough leaders spend enough time on their “hell.” Most leaders want to talk about “paradise.” “Oh, you’ve got to go to paradise. It’s going to be so great.” But the leader doesn’t even know if they want to go there or how to go there. Why?
Because they haven’t truly grasped how brutal hell is—the slow, silent kind. They don’t want to become an Inside Out Leader because that means facing the truth.
So they shove “hell” into the back of their minds, hoping it’ll just disappear. They tell themselves, “I’ve got this,” or “I’ll work on my behaviour next year—after the next review cycle.”
But next year never comes. And while they wait, the rot sets in. Their credibility erodes. Trust fades. Loyalty cracks. Promotion slips out of reach. They don’t even notice the temperature rising—until they’re stuck, irrelevant, and alone. That’s leadership hell. And they’re already in it. And so, they stay there where they are.
And they buy band-aid solutions – a short course on the internet or a one-day seminar somewhere with some “guru” and no follow-up – that just make them feel a bit better about their hell. But which does not get them out of there!
Now, what’s this in the middle?
It’s a “mountain”—the daunting challenge leaders must climb to bridge the gap between where they are now and where they need to be.
If there wasn’t a mountain to climb, they could go where they need to be right now. But the mountain is there for sure. That’s what is keeping them in hell.
They don’t know how to get over the mountain – that is, they don’t know how to manage those annoying behaviours and being unapproachable and inconsistent that are holding them back.
The leaders I’m looking for don’t know how to get to where they want to be. If they did, they’d be there right now. But they can’t get there.
Leadership isn’t a smooth path—it’s a mountain. Looming, relentless, and deeply personal. This is the challenge leaders face: confronting the emotional weight of change, the fear of not being enough, and the discomfort of growth. Most stay at the base, rationalising delay with phrases like, “I’ll fix it next quarter” or “I can handle it.” But avoiding the climb only prolongs the pain.
To become who you’re meant to be, you must first acknowledge the mountain—and then start moving.
And so, I am the guide – the “Obi-Wan Kenobi” who serves as the leader’s guide; the one who takes them over the mountain; grabs them by the hand; shows them what to do and how to do it – teaching the leader about emotions, guiding him or her on their path to managing emotional cues and emotion mastery.
I help educate them, increase their emotional intelligence, communication skills, and self-awareness, and correct their mistakes and wrong leadership behaviour with non-judgement, compassion, and understanding, and get them to walk themselves into paradise.
This is the beautiful part for me: Leaders will stop reacting and start leading.
Leaders grasp an “Aha” moment as they receive emotional intelligence assessment results and feedforward from their stakeholders and me and make positive, lasting, behavioural change; for themselves, their people and their teams.
I give them knowledge and emotion mastery skills, and they experience the thrill of practising new habits that they don’t have.
This is the concept to keep in mind:
I’m the only coach in the world to teach you how to measurably improve your Emotional Intelligence and Leader Behaviour … In Just 3-hours per Week within 90-days … or I’ll work with you until you do.
It’s the promise of leaders getting out of hell that makes the change transformational. Leaders not only are invested in my program and consultations; they are invested in and transformed by the change they achieve.
Their responses are like, “Yes. We now have changed the way we see things. We’ve changed where we’re going. And now we’re going in this new direction.”
A transformation, right? All because of The Emotional Leader System. And this works for ANY leader – those already successful and those just starting out. Okay?
Even you.
Super powerful. And it will change your behaviour and life forever.
So, if you are a successful leader who can say,
- “I need to change”,
- “I need to change now,”
- And can ask me, “Mike, how can you help me?”
Then we need to talk.
Want to become someone you secretly admire?
Someone you daydream about…
… Want more self-awareness, more personal growth, more authenticity?
… Want more confidence, more respect, more power?
… Want to finally feel good enough as an inside out leader?
Are these your strenghts?
✅ Self-awareness – understand your own emotions, motivations, and biases to make sound decisions and build strong relationships.
✅ Authenticity – lead from the “inside-out” – be genuine and true to yourself which fosters trust and connection with others.
✅ Personal growth – recognise that leadership is a journey of continuous learning and development requiring ongoing reflection and improvement.
✅ Focus on values – align your action with core values, creating a sense of purpose and inspiring others to do the same.
The inside out leader’s goal is to lead effectively to positively influence and empower lasting behavioural change in themselves and those around them.
Inside out leaders do not focus on external skills, techniques, and strategies. It starts with personal development and then extends to others, building alignment, and reinforcing trust.
Become the best version of yourself and use that authenticity to inspire and empower others to do the same.
Ready to Lead from the Inside Out?
If you’re serious about elevating your leadership, you need to ask, “Mike, how can you help me?”
The Emotional Leader System is your next step. This is my 6-month executive coaching experience designed to transform how you think, feel, and behave as a leader. Through targeted emotional intelligence development and powerful behaviour change strategies, you’ll gain clarity, control, and confidence—on your terms. You decide how far you want to grow. Whether you’re aiming to strengthen self-awareness, improve communication, or inspire your team with emotional mastery, I’ll guide you every step of the way. The challenge is real. The results are measurable. And the leader you’re becoming is worth it.
Life is good
Coach Mike Gosling
The Emotional Leader System